To-Do List?

24 Aug 2013

Where on your ‘to-do’ list does weight loss come?

Another silly question it might seem…of course weight loss is pretty high on your agenda…but is it really?

I mentioned the chap in my group who has a really regimented attitude towards his weight loss – his military background is likely a contributing factor here! He sees it as a simple case of desire – what do you want more…to be a healthy weight, or to eat the junk that got you fat and continues to prevent progress? And whilst I am aware that there are life issues that make weight loss difficult, I have to agree with him for the most part.

We all have our stories, and we all find life tough at times. What is tough for one seems simple for another, and visa versa. Yet the overriding factor is that if you do really want it, you will do it, and people with issues will use anything as an excuse…I know, I have done it and I have seen lots of others do the same thing. From simple excuses such as, “I had to have an ice-cream as I was out at the park with the kids and they wanted one,” and “I have lost my job and just can’t focus.” Now on the surface of it, these might seem like okay reasons.

The first however makes me smile – your kids wanted the ice-cream…they get their joy from eating their ice-cream…not watching you demolish yours! I am sure that they would be far happier to have someone running around the park with them, than someone to share an ice cream with. Harsh? Maybe! But it is true…you do not have to eat food that is not helpful to your weight loss campaign just because you think it is expected of you. That doesn’t mean to say that you cannot ever enjoy an ice cream with your kids…but when I hear you sit in group and use that as an excuse for not losing weight…it sounds lame really. I also have to question whether that one itty-bitty ice-cream was the real reason for a 2lb weight gain! ;-) You have a choice!

As for the lost job reason, this was one of mine – along with money worries, health concerns, interview stress…a long list of pathetic excuses that I used in order to keep shovelling junk down my throat. Now, look at it logically. If I had lost my job and was worried about money, how was eating my way through £40 to £50 of junk food each day helpful? It was putting me deeper in financial trouble. As for the interview stress…I was worried that people would think I was too fat…so I kept eating! How exactly was that going to solve the problem?! For goodness sakes, I had to get a grip!

I also hear people talking about their relatives being ill, or in hospital, and not being able to focus…but staying healthy and strong for your relatives is likely to be more beneficial than eating food that makes you tired and sluggish, surely? I am not saying that I am perfect at all…but I think that we – and I definitely include myself in the ‘we’ – have to get real and be honest with ourselves and everyone else. Choosing not to eat well because life is tough is one thing, but blaming your eating on that life issue is not a good way of taking responsibility. You could say, “I haven’t eaten well today because I chose not to.”…I chose not to…not blaming the situation, or saying that you hadn’t been able to eat well – but that you chose…you take the responsibility, not the situation. The situation has nothing to do with it, but your response and reaction to the situation does.

The same goes for the ‘to-do’ list. If weight loss is a priority, then make it one. Don’t put it off, don’t prioritise other things over that unless you have absolutely no choice…if you have a choice, chose to be responsible…and if you don’t chose that option, be honest about it. Since I stopped trying to make excuses I have felt more in control. I might not chose the right option all of the time – such as my lack of exercise recently – but I am honest with myself about it. It is quite empowering…I don’t feel like as much of a big excuse…I feel as if I am making choices.

I am not going to give you suggestions as to how you can make weight loss your priority…this would be teaching you to sucks eggs really…I have a sneaking suspicion that you already know what you need to do! ;-)

On that note, I have chosen to invest in myself a little! Most of you are aware of the Jessie Pavelka events that I am running…however Jessie is also holding his own well-being day down in Oxfordshire, and I have decided to go. I think that this is a great investment for my future and I am so excited to see what I can learn. My events are going to be fab, but I doubt that I will be able to truly relax as I am wanting to make sure that everyone has a good time and finds the event valuable…so this one is for me…time to relax and soak it all up, and stick some credits in my motivation bank for tough times. If anyone is interested in the event – then get in touch and let me know – probably best to email me at – and I can give you some more info!

20130824-211710.jpgRight then…the usuals…

Today has been a strange one – it is the first time in years that I have worked at the weekend! I have been helping my other half and finished the project today…but feel that the week has gone by in a blur. I was woken up early as the chap across the road decided to start digging up his driveway with a digger at 7.45am…very neighbourly! :-) I then had breakfast, went to see the horses, went to Asda, went to see my Dad who was at my sisters…so got bombarded by the children, and then came home to work for six hours. I am heading off early tomorrow morning to Manchester airport to see the planes with my nephew, and we are having a picnic, going to a park and staying away for the night…I have been toying with pulling out of it all day, but know that I can’t let the kids down, so am going to put myself out there again!

Breakfast: Blackberry and banana porridge (1 x HEB).

20130824-201739.jpgLunch: Leftovers from last night and a Quorn southern burger (1 x HEB and 5 syns).

20130824-201904.jpgDinner: Roast sweet and normal potato, stuffed mushrooms (2 x HEA + 4 syns) and Quorn pepper steaks.

20130824-202130.jpgSnacks: Peach – no picture of that though!

My food today has been nice. Nothing special, but nice! I have been in a bit of a rush this week and haven’t had the usual time to plan and organise…so much so that I have forgotten my picnic food for tomorrow and am making a hashed up meal of Quorn burger salad to take with me! So today’s food was designed to use up some fridge stuff that might be passed best by the time we come around to eating here again on Tuesday.

Exercise: Nothing today! :-(

Thank you for reading, and enjoy the rest of your weekend!

Weight Loss Bitch xxx



On a health and fitness driven journey to lose over 32st / 448lbs / 203kgs – yes, it is a considerable amount – I am committed to losing my excess weight without the aid of weight loss surgery, diet pills, or quick fixes…as there aren’t any! Changing my eating habits and building up my fitness levels, along with addressing the ‘head issues’ will be crucial in order for me to achieve my goal. Living in England as a 31 year old super morbidly obese woman can be challenging to say the least. I have been shouted at in the street and verbally abused far too many times to mention; hence the name ‘Weight Loss Bitch’…the day I am just called a ‘bitch’ instead of a ‘fat bitch’ will be the day that I know I have cracked my weight loss! With many reasons to lose this weight I am documenting my journey for a number of reasons. Firstly, I would like to keep a record of the ups and downs, the highs and lows, and the challenges I face with such an enormous task to tackle. Secondly, I would also like to inspire and encourage other people who are in a similar situation and to show them that significant amounts of weight can be lost naturally…with a bit of motivation, hard work, dedication and will power. Thirdly, all of the blogging, Facebook-ing, Tweet-ing, Pinterest-ing and YouTube-ing keeps me occupied and keeps my fingers out of the fridge!

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