University was fabulous! I felt like ‘me’ again…back with a vengeance!I am still on a bit of a high, so this might not be incredibly coherent I am afraid!
Firstly, I am a crazy time-keeper freak. I had no sleep on Monday night wondering what the scales would say on Tuesday morning, and had no sleep last night wondering what today was going to be like…so I ended up leaving mega early and being in the university car park at 7.25am – yes, I do have issues! Breakfast was eaten in the car and I read a little bit of a coaching book to chill out beforehand.
I wandered into the building – with my brand new handbag, but no shiny lovely plasticy-smelling pencil case! – and found the room okay. The course leader was there with another chap who turned out to be something to do with the church…although I never did quite fathom out what he did.
The next chap that came in wandered over and sat next to me. He asked what had bought me to the course and so I thought, “It’s now or never!”, and explained what had led me there – my weight loss and my desire to help others overcome their issues. He looked shocked and asked me if it was healthy to lose that much weight so quickly…my response was, “Far bloody healthier than being 43st-odd!”, to which he just laughed. It turns out that he had his own issues, as did most in the room, and so we just chatted a bit about that…I think that there was a commonality and a desire to talk to each other a bit more at some point in the future about it – well, that’s what he said anyway! I found him quite a funny and honest chap, straight-talking, so we sort of bonded in that respect too I guess.
Anyway, it ended up that there were 19 of us…I was expecting half that amount…and I surprised myself in that I wasn’t bothered in the slightest. I quite liked having the audience actually – took me back a couple of years into my work environment.
After a number of mini group exercises and couples work, we were asked to present to the room our findings. Nobody from my group of 8 seemed keen to do this bit…so I stood up and presented to the room. I actually stood up – something I couldn’t do for more than a few seconds at the start of this flipping journey – and spoke in front of a full room. And it felt bloody marvellous…I was really in the swing of it!
I was also one of those annoying people who asked questions and challenged – politely of course – if I wasn’t sure or didn’t agree. It was like the real me was back. I think what helped was getting my story out there during the round-robin introductions…it’s almost for me how fat people poke fun at themselves before anyone else can…I shared my story right at the beginning before people could judge me I guess. And they were lovely – so many people had questions that they came to me privately during the breaks, or during the group work. I was in my element – maybe a career in public speaking needs to happen!
It was just fantastic – I can’t quite put into words how fulfilled I felt…it was a reminder of the person that I am capable of being and it felt so good. I almost wish I could go everyday!
Anyway, I won’t ramble on. Needless to say that I think I am going to enjoy myself on this course – and if I am enjoying the course so much, putting my learning into practice to help others is going to be bloody marvellous. Apparently I will be filmed coaching other group members and have to watch that back to critique myself…which is a bit ‘eek!’…not the critiquing, but just being on screen. I will also be assessed on working with my own clients, one of whom will have to come into the university one day so that someone can watch me in action…all exciting stuff.
I have a real bee in my bonnet about dickheads who think that they can make some easy money out of people and their struggles. I see so many people touting themselves as coaches or mentors when they either have no experience themselves, and/or no qualifications. Both experience and qualifications are important – experience to be able to come from a position of true understanding, and qualifications to ensure that they are doing things well…and not messing people up even more. So if you are looking for a coach – then check these things…and check that it isn’t a two-day bloody Mickey Mouse course that they have done! On that note, my current qualifications are already pretty sound enough to coach from…but I want to take it to the next level and really ensure that I do right by my future clients (I don’t like calling people ‘clients’…reminds me of hookers…or is that punters?!) so maybe I am a bit too obsessive…but it’s so important when you want to make a change – so don’t do anything less than the best is my thinking!
Right then…I am shattered and on a weird energy / lack of sleep high, so I will love you and leave you! I just have to say a huge ‘THANK YOU’ for your support though…it means a huge amount to me and the messages I had from you were amazing.
Oh – when I got home there was a huge blanket mountain on the sofa, underneath which was this…
He had only been and bought me a MacBook Air – I was so shocked! It was a ‘proud of you’ present and one to mark the fact that I am now just over halfway in my weight loss…he is a keeper, as many have told me! Bless him, he also got me a ‘thank you’ balloon to say thank you for getting to halfway and turning your life around…I do love him to bits!
Breakfast: Quorn ham salad batches (2 x HEB).
Exercise: Not much exercised other than the grey matter today.
Thank you for reading,
Weight Loss Bitch