What is it with eBay arseholes? Why would you put in a ‘Best Offer’ only to have it accepted but yet ignore the seller until they threaten to report you?
Poor old Terry Treadmill is still without a home! I accepted a ‘Best Offer’ of £800 and sent the invoice over, asking for payment within 24 hours. No joy. So I sent another invoice with the same message. No joy. Having done my research, despite positive feedback I spotted that this guy had previously bid and then not made contact and never paid up. So I sent a message asking for some form of contact, stating that I had seen his feedback was dicey, and explaining that I would have no option to report if I didn’t get a response within 24 hours.
Lo and behold, a response was given…not a pleasant one! Due to the size of the treadmill it won’t fit through my door without being disassembled. I had explained this in my invoice – offering to send him a video (which I would time and date stamp) of it in action, along with copies of the recent service invoices. However, he stated that he was planning to come and see it on Saturday but wouldn’t pay up until he saw it working…”that’s how eBay works” he stated.
Actually, eBay works when people communicate…and the premise is that you pay up before goods are sent, unless agreeing otherwise before bidding! I asked him how I was supposed to know he wanted to come and view it…he hadn’t asked me this before bidding, and hadn’t even asked this after winning the bid. I asked if he thought I was psychic! I would be perfectly happy for people to come and try Terry out…as long as they can dismantle and shift it…and as long as they let me know. I had to get my Dad to help me put it up and can’t guarantee him being here when people come and look. As a perfectly reasonable person, I then asked what time he was planning on arriving on Saturday – surprise surprise, he backed out because my tone wasn’t acceptable apparently! 
Haha – trying living with me you fecker and then see what you think of my tone…and wait until I unleash that ‘tone’ shortly! What makes me chuckle is that my digging uncovered the fact that this guy is setting up a gym. Once the issue has been sorted with eBay – as they are trying to claim £75 in sellers fees – I am outing this dickhead…his name and his gym name will be known! I cannot stand time wasters and eejits who think that a clever answer helps them back out of an agreement.
I am most annoyed about him backing out of the sale as I had planned a mammoth shopping trip for Food Bank items and food to help feed the homeless at Christmas…so he’s not only pissed me off, but he has – in effect – taken food out of the mouths of people…yet he boasted that he still had £800 in his pocket when I called him a time waster. I will still do the Food Bank thing, as I do every year…but might have to scale back on my plans – so frustrating!
So Terry has no home, I will not be putting my dining table back up – so Christmas dinner on my knee, and the three trolley loads of food I had planned on will become one unless I can find another treadmiller! It’s not all bad though..Terry Treadmill is proudly displaying my new sports bras and I think he quite likes that job!
Other than the suckiness of ‘eBay Eejit’ as he is known…actually, I called him far worse but for the sake of my reputation I will not print what I called him – today has been okay.
Yesterday’s blog promoted masses of emails, private messages and responses – all giving supports, tips and hints. I love this support – it is wonderful to know that people are rooting for me. However, it makes my brain hurt! It comes from a place of love, which I understand, but I do also understand the science behind it all…so the potential answers are tucked up my sleeve.
I am choosing not to make alterations as I want my body to have a chance to catch up with the changes in activity. I am choosing not to make alterations as not only my Slimming World consultant (who is very experienced and has award winners under her belt), but the dietician too, have warned me to expect slow periods with a journey as large as mine. You lose not only fat and water with weight loss, but muscle mass and bone density too. Obviously my muscle mass is being worked, and exercise improves bone density too…my body is dealing with this…which means extra weight being added. I am very likely to be losing fat but gaining in other areas…it’s just that the Slimming World scales don’t highlight this.
From a BMR (basal metabolic rate) rate perspective – this is the number of calories my body needs just to exist in a day if I were to do nothing but breathe and keep ticking over – my needs are 2402 calories per day. If I take into consideration my activity levels – I have calculated this based on ‘moderate’ activity three to five times a week…it doesn’t feel moderate to me, but probably is for everyone else, and I do seven sessions a week – then my calorie intake, to remain the same weight, needs to be 3723 calories each day. I consume between 1700 to 2000 calories per day…a weekly deficit of 12061. If you look at the science behind this – with 3500 calories equating to a pound of fat – then I should be getting a loss of 3.5lbs each week.
So something isn’t working!
I have been advised to exercise less…this really isn’t going to happen unless I injure myself. When you have gone from a state of not being able to stand for more than a few seconds, the sheer joy of being able to walk through the doors of a gym is immense…it feels amazing! This is a feeling that I will not give up. This level of activity is what I am aiming to build into my life…so why wait? Why should I cut down my sessions only to build them back up again. Maybe my body might not go into shock…but my mind is alive, my body feels great (let’s ignore what it looks like!) and I am proud of myself for turning things around. Not doing what I do is not an option.
Maybe a week of Extra Easy would help…shake things up a bit. Maybe more syns would work – I can have upto 25 due to my weight. Maybe, maybe, maybe! Like I said, I have plenty up my sleeve but just want to let my body settle down. How will I know what works if I keep changing it every week because I am throwing my toys out of the pram over a number? Yes, it annoys the hell out of me. Yes, I get incredibly annoyed when I hear about the festive foods everyone else is stuffing down. Yes, I want to see results for the efforts. But that will happen…I trust the process, I trust the Slimming World plan, I trust the people around me, I trust myself and my efforts.
Anyway – the usual stuff has been good today. A morning of babysitting my nephew, followed by a gym session, a visit to the horses and Asda. Now…this was a kind of M&S gym/horse/Asda moment…a very extra special one…as I went all on my own. Regular readers will know that my other half is my comfort blanket! I rarely go anywhere without him – I have only been to Asda a few times recently with him, but did it all on my lonesome today. No nasty comments from anyone…but to be honest, I was so pumped up from the gym and feel like Teflon at the moment…give it your best shot as nothing is sticking…I feel marvellous! I then finished the babysitting – my other half had relieved me for a couple of hours – and then headed home to get ready for more Slimming World talks. Another bunch of lovely people tonight, who inspired me! I also got a lovely basket of fruit as a thank you – I was a bit overwhelmed by this as I wasn’t expecting anything! I then tried to get home but the roads were closed…I eventually made it…and finished my evening with a couple of Breaking Bad episodes.
Right then…Mr WLB wants his turn…this is day 3 of him being on Slimming World and his food diary is a little lacking! 
“The 4 Kit Kat Chunky’s didn’t half play havoc with my guts this morning. The last few weeks I have drastically cut down my chocolate consumption and I guess my system had a bit of a shock. I dread to think how WLB would feel if she decided to order an Indian takeaway!
Today started the same as yesterday with half a pot of Onken fat free blueberry yoghurt with a sachet of porridge, banana and mixed seeds.
I had to babysit my nephew for half an hour over lunch today and didn’t go prepared. He had a lunchbox of delights and when I saw him tucking into a bag of crisps it set off crisp cravings so proceeded to ask him where the crisp cupboard was. 2 packets later and I’d gotten my fix when my nephew remarked ‘Chocolate cupboard and pointed at the top shelf’. I resisted and feel bloody proud!
Maybe I should be a bit more considerate around WLB as sometimes seeing someone eat something makes you want to eat it to!
WLB went food shopping on her own for the first time in around 4 years today. Normally I would go in due to WLB’s mobility problems and concerns over the idiots who call her names.
I was pretty concerned when she got back telling me she had spent double on our daily shop! Thankfully the bags were full of goodness in the form of fresh fruit and veg.
I’m also really proud of her doing more talks to Slimming World members this evening!”
Haha…I love that he resisted the chocolate cupboard…but do you know what? He blamed one of the empty crisp packets on my nephew!
Breakfast: Banana porridge (5 syns).
Lunch: Quorn turkey rolls with salad and minty bean salad (2 x HEB and 2 syns).
Dinner: Pasta with veggies and cheese (2 x HEA).
Snacks: Fruit and a Nakd bar (7.5 syns).
A good food day! Brekkie before the workout, and lunch just after. I love the Quorn turkey slices, and had this with salad and half a tub of the Asda minty bean salad – which is 4 syns per tub. Dinner was quick and simple before I headed off for my talks – I fried some onion, green beans, tomatoes, mushrooms and a pepper – and then cooked some Pasta’n’Sauce – and added my cheese. My snacks were eaten after my talks.
Exercise: 30 minutes on the elliptical machine and 45 minutes of weights.
Thank you for reading,
Weight Loss Bitch xxx
WeightLossBitch
On a health and fitness driven journey to lose over 32st / 448lbs / 203kgs – yes, it is a considerable amount – I am committed to losing my excess weight without the aid of weight loss surgery, diet pills, or quick fixes…as there aren’t any! Changing my eating habits and building up my fitness levels, along with addressing the ‘head issues’ will be crucial in order for me to achieve my goal. Living in England as a 31 year old super morbidly obese woman can be challenging to say the least. I have been shouted at in the street and verbally abused far too many times to mention; hence the name ‘Weight Loss Bitch’…the day I am just called a ‘bitch’ instead of a ‘fat bitch’ will be the day that I know I have cracked my weight loss! With many reasons to lose this weight I am documenting my journey for a number of reasons. Firstly, I would like to keep a record of the ups and downs, the highs and lows, and the challenges I face with such an enormous task to tackle. Secondly, I would also like to inspire and encourage other people who are in a similar situation and to show them that significant amounts of weight can be lost naturally…with a bit of motivation, hard work, dedication and will power. Thirdly, all of the blogging, Facebook-ing, Tweet-ing, Pinterest-ing and YouTube-ing keeps me occupied and keeps my fingers out of the fridge!
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