- “ya, I can tell you don’t feel good.”
- “Man, you look tired today”
- “You must not feel very good, I can tell”
Those may all sound different to you. But to me, they all mean “Hey Crohnie, you look like crap today,” and sometimes with the an additional “so get your crap together!”
See, when I put it that way, it doesn’t sounds very nice does it? So please refrain from telling me how bad I look, because it usually means I feel worse than normal, and by you pointing it out, it is only going to make me feel worse, much much worse. Instead why don’t you try telling me how good I look. I will always take a compliment, but truth be told telling me, “you don’t look sick” is not a compliment. It just means that I look like everyone else, so no that does not count as a compliment.
Okay new suggestion, going back to the age old rule, “if you don’t have anything nice to say,” don’t say it at all. Bottom line if you don’t have anything nice to say about my appearance, keep it to yourself…forever…I don’t want to hear it. So that is my rant of the day, and I am positive is applicable to other people suffering from Illness. Next time I look like crap, please keep it to yourself, so I can go on pretending that I don’t have an awful disease in my not so normal life.