It’s time for me to talk about something that I am reading again…and, as always, I am constantly likening things to weight loss – which bores even me, so apologies to you for having to put up with me!
My current read is by Malcolm Gladwell – Outliers.
It’s an interesting read…even if Mr Gladwell does have a tendency to make very complex issues and social phenomena seem overly simple. But then again, far too many people try to over-complicate things, so I quite like his style – it gets me thinking rather than boring the shite out of me like some of the more academic stuff does!
So this following bit is shamelessly stolen from Wiki – which is not renowned for it’s accuracy…but it’s not bad in this instance. While writing Outliers, Gladwell noted that “the biggest misconception about success is that we do it solely on our smarts, ambition, hustle and hard work.”. He hopes to show that there are a lot more variables involved in an individual’s success than society cares to admit, and he wants people to “move away from the notion that everything that happens to a person is up to that person”. Gladwell noted that, although there was little that could be done with regard to a person’s fate, society can still impact the “man”-affected part of an individual’s success. When asked what message he wanted people to take away after reading Outliers, Gladwell responded, “What we do as a community, as a society, for each other, matters as much as what we do for ourselves. It sounds a little trite, but there’s a powerful amount of truth in that, I think.”
Now, as I started reading I began to think about weight loss success.
The first part of the book looks at various ways in which we perceive success – showing that there are some factors in there that mean that successful people get more support than those who aren’t.
Then there is talk about ’10,000 hours’ – which is apparently the amount of time that successful people practice for, before becoming a master in their field.
Consideration is then given to the backgrounds of successful people – how they are nurtured.
So just read those bits again…
If you take a moment to consider weight loss success then these things figure in the equation somewhere along the line.
Support is essential. Ultimately you are responsible and only you can achieve what it is that you are aiming for. However, if you have a lack of support – a lack of knowledge, a lack of tools to do the job, people who aren’t interested in supporting you to achieve your goals – well, it’s very fecking difficult to achieve anything under these circumstances, regardless of how determined you are. You need help and a decent support network – be that family, friends, your Slimming World ‘family’, or your virtual mates…we all need a bit of support – like a great pair of knickers, or a bra…or those new pants for boys that put your bits in a good place!
I am not successful when it comes to shifting weight because I am different. I am getting success because I fecking work hard for it. I practice. I immerse myself in the things that help me – I educate myself about food and nutrition, I workout with a personal trainer to learn more about what works for my body, I focus on the mind and making that work smarter for me…and I practice, practice, practice. I do things when I can’t really be arsed…like going to the gym today for example, because I know that it is important. And if you don’t want to practice, and just expect it to happen naturally for you when you stop thinking about it…well, you can only stop thinking about how to do something once you have practiced. Think about it – driving your car for example. I bet you get from A to B in your car without even realising how you’ve done it…but you had to have lessons, which involved a fair bit of practice!
And finally the nurturing part. How we behave now is as a result of our life experiences. If you have tried to lose weight in the past and find yourself right back where you started, then you start to doubt your ability. If life has treated you not so well, then you start to think that things are never going to go well. We are a product of our history. But you can change this. You can learn and acquire the skills needed to believe in yourself. Nurturing is often thought of as a process that parents do with children…how about nurturing yourself though? How about investing some time, effort, and energy into setting yourself up for success? It can be done. I see it time and time again with people that I coach. I did it myself. This is probably my 33rd attempt at losing weight with Slimming World. It wasn’t the plan that didn’t work…it was my approach. I was all or nothing, I was a perfectionist…I am learning to try and move away from this – to nurture myself, to show myself some compassion, to be a person who is focussed upon action but that knows it won’t always be easy.
Anyway, I am jumping the gun a little I think. I am only on page 116 of 299 – there is still a long way to go, and a lot more to learn. Which is also true of my weight loss journey! I am also in danger of ‘doing a Gladwell’ and over simplifying things…so I will leave it there for now!
Today has been interesting. I went to the market in my city – which is a place that I would have avoided like the plague at my biggest. It’s hot, busy, you end up getting lost in there – or I do! – and there are sweet shops and places selling delicious samosas, cakes, sandwiches…you name it, it’s there! Mr WLB and I had gone to stock up on fruit, veggies, nuts, and seeds. I am officially detoxing him! Under normal circumstances, your liver and kidneys are good enough. However, Mr WLB has had an atrocious diet for so many years, has smoked, and has taken so many prescribed tablets that he practically rattles…so he could do with a little helping hand, especially given his current symptoms which nothing seems to be relieving. So he bought this lot with his ‘stopped smoking fund’…
…along with a few others delights. He is juicing – it’s a great way of loading the body with nutrients. He has had four juices today and there is no way that he could have eaten the equivalent amount of fruit and veggies. Given his recent weight loss, I have also stuffed three smoothies down his neck – with oats, banana, honey, nuts, peanut butter, and almond milk – to keep his calories up. It’s difficult doing this for him and cooking for me…if only because fecking juicers are a bugger to clean…and my fingers are pinky purple from the beetroot and red cabbage! I am happy though as I got some donut peaches and some lovely other bits of fruit for the weekend…I didn’t think I would ever be so pleased with a bag of bloody fruit!
I have also experienced a ‘first’ today. I have eaten pecan nuts without having them in a sticky pie covered in cream or ice-cream! Can I count that as an NSV?!
Apart from my juicing exploits, I have been to the gym, and been to see the horses. My little Shetland isn’t very well. He’s slightly lame after being in for a couple of days. I don’t think it’s laminitis, as he is normally sound after some time off the grass – even though our grass is sparse – I think it might be general joint issues. So he is back outside so that he can keep moving around a bit and I am off to explore joint supplements for him.
So I will leave you with a question…what are you going to do differently this week – just one thing – in order to help increase your chance of success?
Breakfast: Boiled eggs and a banana.
A delicious food day. My usual brekkie was followed by another jacket potato…I have been a creature of habit this week. And for the superfree police out there, no, there was none with lunch. I was heading to the gym afterwards and find that salad and fruit give me wind at both ends…and I didn’t need nor want a turbo-changed rowing machine session! Dinner was meatballs with ratatouille – tomatoes, courgette, peppers, onion, garlic, and herbs – with rice and cheese. Both the rice and the meatballs had syns as I couldn’t find the Quorn meatballs and had to use some that were synned. My snacks were delicious. A bowl of Greek yogurt, cherries, blueberries, pistachios, and pecan nuts…followed by another Bounce Ball for 8 syns.
Exercise: 15 minutes rowing, 15 minutes hand-bike, 15 minutes elliptical, 15 minutes treadmill…and a few 200kg leg presses.
Thank you for reading,
Weight Loss Bitch xxx