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Barbara Younger

About Barbara Younger

Barbara Younger blogs from her home in Hillsborough, North Carolina. Along with Friend for the Ride: Encouraging Words for the Menopause Roller Coaster (http://friendfortheride.com), she writes books for children and adults. She lives in an old house with her husband Cliff. and collections of everything from dolls to buttons to bookmarks. She's the mother of two grown daughters and the grandmother to one adorable baby boy!

22Oct

Breads

A blast from the calorie past! Cliff found this calorie list among my mother-in-law Vivian’s papers.The doctor’s name is at the top, and in Vivian’s handwriting are the words “For Al.” So did the doctor want Cliff’s dad on a diet or … Continue reading

  

Raising Awarenss: Womb Cancer Support UK

3Jun

Womb Cancer Support

  Thanks to the posts about my own cancer, I connected with Kaz Molloy, a uterine cancer advocate in the UK. There, uterine cancer is known as “womb cancer.” Kaz says there’s very little awareness of this kind of cancer in the UK. She shares … Continue reading

  

Going Through the Change: A Menopause Superhero Novel!

28Apr

Going Through the Change

(Cover art by Polina Sapershteyn) Here’s a post by a writer friend of mine, Samantha Bryant. She’s written a novel about menopause and superheros! Menopause can be a pretty scary word. In a world that values youth and physical perfection above … Continue reading

  

My Cancer Story: Handmade Affirmations!

12Dec

Open Box

The biggest challenge I faced after my cancer surgery was letting myself recover. Sounds so silly! But as a project person, sometimes I fought the need to rest. (Other days, I thought it glorious. I loved having no greater mission than hours … Continue reading

  

Menopause Tips from a Halloween Witch

31Oct

    “Menopause,” the witch hissed, shaking her broom. “Nothing to it.” “Really?” I asked. “You’ve got the magic potion? Do share!” She pointed a snarly finger my way. “You foolish blogger! There’s no potion for menopause!” Her face softened a bit. “But here are some … Continue reading

  

Lifescript: Tips from Menopause Bloggers

14Oct

Menopause Tips

Lifescript writer Susan Jara put together this collection of menopause tips and life strategies from nine bloggers, including yours truly. Jara writes, “Often, women who have experienced it have the best tips for managing perimenopause or menopause symptoms.” That’s for sure! Don’t … Continue reading

  

Garden Blessings and a Cancer Diagnosis

16Jul

Pink Zinnea

I’m a reluctant gardener. Perhaps because I can only grow zinnias and marigolds.  For real. All other seeds fail me. Perennials, except for a few, refuse to reappear in the spring. But this year the gardening muse took over, and I … Continue reading

  

Just Over Yonder: A Poem for Menopause and Other Times Too

23Jun

Just Over Yonder

As I went through The Great Pause, I kept asking older women about it. “Menopause? That was ages ago! I’ve forgotten,” they’d reply cheerfully. Their responses were happy but not helpful. But… Their forgetfulness inspired me to start this blog, so I could … Continue reading

  

A Shadow of My Former Self

23Jun

Shadow

Menopause messes with your mind… Whirls and twirls those old brain waves And shoots out changes in attitude, perspective, and personality. Some changes just happen. Some are more deliberate, prompted by an increase in zest, courage, and confidence. A week ago, my friend Judy Brown sent … Continue reading

  

Ellen’s Video: A Mother and Son Production

4Apr

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[youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W4TMJ7xyeaE&w=560&h=315] Check out the way cool video in the link above. Three cheers for sons! And a thousand cheers for a son who helps his mom, Ellen Dolgen, spread honest and up-to-date information about perimenopause and menopause. Jack Dolgen … Continue reading

  

Any Time of the Month? Sure!

24Mar

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I made a doctor’s appointment the other day. The next morning  in the shower (why does this stuff come to us in the shower?), a memory came sailing back. How fast I had forgotten… For thirty-five years or so, I … Continue reading

  

Menopause and Dry Eyes

5Mar

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In the last two weeks I’ve gotten something in my eye twice. One speck was so large I needed the assistance of my husband with the fine fine motor skills to remove it. Then it hit me. I never get … Continue reading

  

The Cabbage Patch: Any Takers?

14Feb

Cabbage

So tell me, is it a good system or a bad one? Reproduction and all the joys and troubles it brings. Sometimes I think the cabbage patch would have been a better plan. If babies came from cabbage patches, we wouldn’t … Continue reading

  

The Mosaic of Menopause

7Jan

Mosaic

There were days I thought menopause was chipping away at my body. And there were days I felt like menopause was chipping away at my soul. Pieces of me were falling off bit by bit. But the good news, the … Continue reading

  

Little Women: Christmas Won’t Be Christmas

7Jan

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Famous first line!  A Christmas line, spoken by a great character of literature, Jo March. In honor of that first line and the ambitious and opinionated Jo March, I present the Little Women collection of my friend Nancy Espersen.  Nancy’s … Continue reading

  

Menopause and Angel Wings

13Dec

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Angels. Who wouldn’t want to be one? (Someday, that is.) Robes that hide stomachs and veiny legs. Wings that take you wherever you want to go, with no security line hassles. And you can sing!  (I didn’t make the chorus … Continue reading

  

Menopausal Beach Toes

5Nov

Barbara on the Beach

Beach walker here. Barefoot beach walker. That is until three years ago when I noticed the sand wearing away the skin on the bottom of my toes. Yikes! Those poor toes returned from a beach walk looking like I’d run … Continue reading

  

A Halloween Beauty Tip!

30Oct

Pumpkin Menopause Lady

A post from Greta, a pumpkin I met at the North Carolina State Fair last week. Hello everyone in Internet World! I must say, I thought Barbara was rude to just pop a camera in my face. But then we … Continue reading

  

Beer and Menopause: Help from the Hops!

18Oct

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When I was a student at Duke in the seventies, the beer flowed. But I barely touched it.  Just didn’t like the flavor. After I married Cliff, I took sips of his beers over the years.  But only sips.  I … Continue reading

  

Menopausal You and Me: Mellow or Bold?

26Sep

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  Menopause makes us bold, like these garden flowers, who went summer nuts outside my kitchen window. We speak up. We voice our opinions. We make brave choices. But… Menopause makes us mellow too. We know when to remain silent. … Continue reading

  

Picnics: Gain Strength!

2Sep

Godey's Ladies

Menopausal moodiness can  sure make you sad. The events of life can too sometimes. Sarah Josepha Hale, famed editor of Godey’s Lady’s Book, knew something about sadness and about techniques for overcoming gloom and grief. In Sarah’s day, a new mode of … Continue reading

  

Breast Pain in the Menopause

2Aug

Statue Lady

You might guess the lady above is thinking poetic marble lady thoughts. Nope. She’s in a grump because her top hurts. She hasn’t had a period for over two years, but the other day her top starting hurting like it … Continue reading

  

This Body!

20Jul

This Body

Ever since menopause set in, I’ve gotten grumpy about my body. Aging makes me sad. Shocks me. Worries me. The vanity issues. And the bigger issues. Eyes. Mobility. Teeth. Balance. Girl stuff. I’m determined to keep in the best shape … Continue reading

  

Falling Off the Roof!

8Jul

Falling Off the Roof

For your viewing pleasure, a painting created exclusively for Friend for the Ride: My mom painted this young lady falling off the roof, inspired by a recent conversation with her friends. During their high school and college days, in the … Continue reading

  

Euphoria! The Best Part of the Menopause Roller Coaster

2Jul

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Preview Yep! Euphoria. I’d be living my regular life and all of a sudden. Pow! I’d fly into the best mood. Dust bunnies, pudgy stomach, piles of projects. Didn’t matter. Life was a beach! A big, wonderful, splashy, happy beach. … Continue reading

  

Alligator Skin and Lovable Lyle, the Crocodile

22Jun

Alligators

I have a friend Gail just like Oprah has a friend Gayle. Their names are spelled differently, but they are the same kind of friends. They tell us stuff. Stuff we might not know about life and getting older. Gail … Continue reading

  

Menopause Blogs!

17Jun

First Post

Above is the heading for my first post. Seems like yesterday! Today I’m pleased to report that Friend for the Ride was selected by Healthline as one of the best menopause blogs of 2013. I’m in fine company! Check out the … Continue reading

  

Toss Our Bras Now?

10Jun

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Just looking at these packages is like stepping into the This Is Your Bra-Life Time Machine. Do you remember getting your first bra? The fabric. Figuring out how to adjust the straps. Hooking it. Were you the sort who spun … Continue reading

  

Menopause Recap: Good Articles Spinning Around the Web

7Jun

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I wonder what Flemish painter Jacob Jordaens would think of the Internet. He painted this picture of Adam and Eve and the Tree of Knowledge back in the 17th century. Looks sort of like they are spinning the World Wide Web. … Continue reading

  

A Wedding/Menopause TMI Post!

22May

Wedding Purse

The purse above is the purse I carried on my daughter Katherine’s big day. For Laura’s upcoming nuptials, I thought it would be fun to get a new one. But alas, pennies are spilling from our pocketbooks like lucky rice … Continue reading

  

Speed Childhood!

17May

Laura One

  Rehearsal dinner slide show in the works! Laura’s childhood photos were my job. When you’re a mom, some of those days are long, but the years sure are short, as Gretchen Rubin of The Happiness Project reminds us in her quick … Continue reading

  

Menopause and Spilled Milk!

10May

  As a writer, revision is my middle name. I revise, almost, until the cows come home. But what about as a menopausal woman? Do I need to turn myself into ice cream? Or should I just be happy with spilled … Continue reading

  

The Scale: A Poem

8May

Scale

  In honor of us menopausal types, my poem, “The Scale”:   Do you cringe When you deliver The bad news to me, Or is smirking More your style? Someday, Scale, I hope you’ll speak Kindly, firmly, fondly, With words since  Your numbers fail … Continue reading

  

Menopause Feet, Oh My!

5May

Feet

About fifteen years ago, my friend Lisa Flinn commented, “When you go through menopause, I read that a layer of fat on you feet disappears. It makes walking more uncomfortable.” We were talking on the phone when she gave me … Continue reading

  

What About You? The Girl is Mother of the Woman

24Apr

Menopause often sends you back. Way back. To your girlhood. Since The Great Pause has set in, I’m spending more time reflecting on my early years. But now is good! I love writing this blog. More than any job or … Continue reading

  

the menopause marbles

17Apr

Marbles

Nope! You aren’t losing your marbles. Menopause just makes you feel that way sometimes. Names skip away. Car key escape. The brownies decide to burn. For years, women nicknamed this condition “menopausal fog.” The results of a recent research study confirm … Continue reading

  

Menopause: Save the Sisters!

7Apr

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Although the subtitle of my blog is “Encouraging Words for the Menopause Roller Coaster,” I must give you a Whine Alert! I thought the great day would come when we’d stop having periods. No cramps. No worrying about going sailing … Continue reading

  

34 Menopause Symptoms: A Favorite Website

27Mar

34 Symptoms

When I was in the middle of menopausal madness, this was my favorite website. Here is the link, loud and clear, for you to click: 34 Menopause Symptoms I’d have something funky going on. Could this be menopause? I’d jump onto … Continue reading

  

The Menopause Bunny–NOT!

24Mar

Henrietta Bunny

Since Mrs. Claus has taken an interest in menopause. And since there are Menopause Pumpkins. And since you can buy a Magic Guilt-free Holiday Wand. I thought, perhaps, there might be  a Menopause Bunny to help women out, especially in the springtime. So I … Continue reading

  

Mother of the Bride Update: Wedding Arms!

19Mar

Pink Weight

Nine and a half more weeks until my daughter Laura’s wedding. Yikes! And my MOB dress is SLEEVELESS. Like Meg Tipper, I’m wondering how my arms will look. Shiny pink hand weights weren’t enough to inspire me to pump those arms… Until … Continue reading

  

Mercy, the Menopause Angel

12Mar

Menopause Angel

I’m Mercy! You might think I’m a guy by my short haircut, but it’s breezy up here in heaven, so I like the no worry feel of shorter hair. Well actually, there are no worries in heaven, but old habits die hard, … Continue reading

  

Alone! A Menopause Sometimes Craving

12Mar

Alice Walker

Who’s interested in Alice’s very small hut?  A pleasant hut, basically bug free, and the small animal is a sweet one. Menopause, sometimes, causes us to crave alone time. Time for pondering and reflecting and time for calling up what … Continue reading

  

Myrtle: A Love Story

6Mar

Myrtle

When my mom was nine, her best friend Bona Lockwood gave her a panda for Christmas. Mom named the bear Myrtle. It’s not hard to guess, from her appearance, that Myrtle has led an exuberant life. Lots of love.  Plenty of adventures. Myrtle’s … Continue reading

  

The Happiest Girls

3Mar

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This statement by Audrey Hepburn took me in: I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. When we reach a certain age, we learn some things about happiness. That it’s up to us. That it’s ninety-some percent attitude. And … Continue reading

  

Wedding Dress Update: What a Time to Love a Dress!

1Mar

Laura and Kitty

The dress shopping is finished!  At least for the wedding day. Rehearsal dinner dresses yet to be selected. I promise a Mother of the Bride dress update soon.  The wedding is June 1. Coming right up! Until then, in honor … Continue reading

  

Ever Green Menopausal You

1Mar

Evergreen.  Since ancient times, a symbol of life in the midst of the cold of winter. Vibrancy.  Color. Renewal. For those of you who sometimes feel frozen with the sadness, nervousness, and grumpiness that menopausal moodiness can bring, take heart in … Continue reading

  

Hip Menopause!

4Feb

I’ve been working on a proposal for a book based on Friend for the Ride. My agent, Erzsi Deak, although enthusiastic, thought my proposal needed more glamour and spunk. “Making menopause HIP is the way to go!” Erzsi said. Menopause? … Continue reading

  

A Mirror Fast! Could You? Would You?

11Jan

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The idea of mirror fasting has hit the blogosphere! Here’s an article in the New York Times giving you the reflective scoop: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/08/16/fashion/mirror-fasts-help-take-the-focus-off-yourself.html?_r=0 I probably need  a chocolate fast more than a mirror fast, but the concept of NOT looking … Continue reading

  

Apres La Holiday Willpower and Menopausal Weight Gain

8Jan

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My daughter Laura, the school psychologist,  gave me this treat-eating holiday advice, based on recent psychological studies: When you use self-control to resist treats, you reinforce your ability to use willpower.  So each time you make a healthy choice, you increase your chances … Continue reading

  

A Poem with Numbers and Letters for the New Year

1Jan

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  Brand new year With the number 13 Making the superstitious Uneasy. If I squish your 13 together, I get a B A Bold letter B. A Bubbly letter B A Brilliant letter B. Make the Best of us, 2013, … Continue reading

  

Happy Sitting: An Idea for the New Year

29Dec

  On my first official babysitting gig for my grandson a few months ago, We played, sang, read, And sang some more, And then one of us Cried, really cried. Oh no! Grandma KK, the other grandma, Had visited in the morning And lulled baby to sleep … Continue reading

  

A Guest Post from Santa Claus!

19Dec

I have begged and pleaded and tried my very best to convince men friends to write a guest post for my menopause blog. Some have turned me down with a smile, some with a quite serious shake of the head. … Continue reading

  

Cookie Aging Points and the World’s Easiest Cookie Recipe

16Dec

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I’d be telling a lie, which is chancy this time of year with Santa watching and all, if I said I love getting old. Some say we’re supposed to not mind aging.  ”Age is just a number,” they tell us. But wrinkles … Continue reading

  

Courage: Of Eleanor Roosevelt and the Lion King

11Dec

The brave and bold Eleanor Roosevelt offered this advice: Do something every day that scares you. But I’m too scared to do something every day that scares me. The word on the menopausal street is that we get braver and … Continue reading

  

Menopause: The Fork!

5Dec

  Whoa! Those are some pretty serious words from menopause guru Christiane Northrup. Die. Grow. Let’s choose GROW! Not like our waistlines  or our to-do-lists. But our minds. Our souls. Our sense of self. Our generous spirits. Our creative actions. Our whimsical and comfortable confidence. … Continue reading

  

Sleep: A Technique to Try!

27Nov

  If I toss and turn at night, Cliff sometimes says, “I can hear your brain working.” Wow, those must be pretty good ears. Then he adds, “Just stop thinking and go to sleep.” STOP THINKING?? Sometimes, it’s big thinking: … Continue reading

  

Create Your World Claude’s Way

23Nov

In France last month, my friends Judy and Lisa and I took a jaunt to Giverny, to the whimsical gardens of impressionist painter Claude Monet. At  his Giverny home, our tour guide explained, the artist set the scenes. Claude didn’t … Continue reading

  

Old Love!

15Nov

A few weeks ago, I flew to Paris with my good friends Judy Brown and Lisa Flinn. Here is an observation, a basically happy one for us older types, from my visit to the Musee Rodin: The Musee Rodin houses … Continue reading

  

A Halloween Menopause Riddle

30Oct

How is menopause like Halloween? Because sometimes you feel like a witch, and you just don’t know which sort of witch you are. Sometimes, you want to hide away in a pumpkin patch, And other times, you’re bursting with energy, … Continue reading

  

White Lace and Promises: The Hunt Is Over

24Oct

Five cities. Ten stores And about sixty dresses. But there was one Laura just kept thinking about. She first tried it on in Atlanta, where she lived for the summer.  A store in Denver carries the dress, so she tried … Continue reading

  

Menopause: Breaking Free

24Oct

There’s something about menopause that’s freeing. I’ve heard it from others. I feel it myself. So let that freedom, help free you even more! Take it up a few notches! What’s the barbed wire in your life? What can you … Continue reading

  

Tangerine Tango: Women Bloggers in Print

17Oct

Color! The older I get, the more I’m drawn to vibrant colors. And so is Lisa Winkler, because she titled her  new anthology Tangerine Tango: Women Writers Share Slices of Life. I  am delighted that Lisa selected three of my poems … Continue reading

  

On Getting Old, Grandma-style

5Oct

I have a feeling I worry more about getting old than the average woman. Hard to know for sure, but it seems that way from  conversations with friends. But I had a moment come over me like a voice from … Continue reading

  

A, B, C’s: An Appreciation

14Sep

An alphabet poem, written by me, in honor of Back to School: Lines and squiggles, Made twenty-six ways, Turn into words, Before our gaze. Hooray for the alphabet! Do you remember when you first learned your A, B, C’s? I … Continue reading

  

The Lost Toys

30Aug

Am I the only one who wonders about her lost toys? The doll in the picture is Baby Sue. She was the first baby doll I remember. I loved her so much I gave her baths, slept with her, took … Continue reading

  

If Measure I Must…

22Aug

A poem, written by me, inspired by my old measuring cup: It’s the measuring cup’s job To measure, not mine, But if measure I must, May it be with a Good measure of love. I find there’s a laidbackness (sorry … Continue reading

  

Another Menstruation Movie. Meet Nurse Jansen!

7Aug

Here’s another film about getting your period! Meet brave Nurse Jansen, who speaks confidently about womanly changes. Watch melancholy Molly, a a girl named Barbara!!, and the other girls in the sad-looking class as they voice their questions. Hear the nurse’s … Continue reading

  

A Blast from Your Menstruation Past

25Jul

And now, for your viewing pleasure, an old film! This film, produced by Disney in 1946 and underwritten by Kotex, was shown in elementary schools into the sixties in the U.S.  Listen to hear the wonders of becoming a woman … Continue reading

  

Menopausal Klutziness

17Jul

When I was in the midst of Menopausal Madness, there were days when I felt truly clumsy. Cliff was especially unhappy when I went down in a split second on the cobblestones near Boston’s Quincy Market. Granted cobblestones do add … Continue reading

  

From the Other Side of the Kotex Box

25Jun

I love these old Kotex ads!  They make me feel a part of the sisterhood of the ages even though I’m not having periods anymore. But I thought being finished would feel more joyful. Like winning a free trip to … Continue reading

  

The Think Quick Forever Love List: A Game for Menopause and Other Times, Too

9Jun

Think quick!  Name as fast as you can, in random order, ten things you have loved since you were two (or so): 1. Dolls 2. Pretzels 3. My mother and father 4. Peter Rabbit and Tom Kitten 5. Icing (on cakes, … Continue reading

  

ten tips from the menopause owl

2Jun

“WHOO!  WHOO,” says the Wise Ms. Menopause Owl. “I have ten tips for you!” Not. I tricked you, so you would read my post.  I don’t know if there really IS a Menopause Owl, but until she makes her apprearance, … Continue reading

  

Brush Like a Flamingo

25May

Balance. The not falling over kind of balance. I took a nasty spill the other day. I don’t  know what, besides a sharp turn and stepping from road to grass, made me fall.  For a few days, my shoulder felt … Continue reading

  

Change, Change, Change in the Change of Life

3May

At some point as I was clumping my way through the Change of Life, I thought:  I really am changing. Not only physically but in some metaphysical way that for the life of the new me, I couldn’t pinpoint. Yet … Continue reading

  

From the Muck of Menopause

24Apr

Menopause is mucky. Periods so weird they would scare a lady swamp monster. Breasts that feel like water balloons ready to pop.  Sleep? In a bed all night long? Impossible! The emotional stuff is even more mucky. Muck . Muck. … Continue reading

  

Droop and THE GIRLS

13Apr

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I’m wondering if these old time corsets would help me deal with the droop my girls complain about. In the above sentence, THE GIRLS means my daughters.  Whenever we go clothes shopping, I usually hear from Laura or Kath:  ” … Continue reading

  

Should a Friend Tell a Friend She’s Got a Chin Hair?

5Apr

This is one of those TMI kind of posts, a post that when I was thirty-five, I had no clue I would dare write.  Of course when I was thirty-five, I had no clue about the super yucko stuff that was going to happen to … Continue reading

  

Menopause and Self-doubt

19Mar

Since first grade, I’ve loved to write.  I began with stories for my dolls, moved to a column in my high school paper, and then published books for kids and adults. In 2006, I began studying for an MFA in … Continue reading

  

I Can Solve Your Problem! I Just Know I Can, She Says with Her Hand over Her Mouth

13Mar

I can solve her problem.  I know I can.  I know I can.  I just know I can! But she won’t listen. I can solve his problem.  I know I can.  I know I can.  I just know I can! … Continue reading

  

Paper Plate Menopause Lady: A Craft Project

28Feb

Phew!  My friend Lisa Flinn and I just turned in a manuscript to Abingdon Press for a book of children’s programs: crafts,song, stories, games, explanations, snacks, prayers.  I’m beat, but not too beat to write up one more craft, a … Continue reading

  

My Non-complaining Socks and Me

21Feb

A few years ago, I decided for Lent, to give up complaining. WOW! Talk about an eye opener.  I bit my tongue many times over those forty-some days.  What happened though, was a small miracle.  I found myself, toward the … Continue reading

  

Will She Wear Purple?

4Feb

Most of you know the poem that begins, “When I am old, I shall wear purple.” The poem’s title is “Warning,” and it was written in 1961 by British poet Jenny Joseph. In 1961, wearing purple was a much bigger … Continue reading

  

A Menopause Tip Across the Ages! Well, Maybe

25Jan

  I love blogging and thinking about blog posts.  I’m sure I bring up Friend for the Ride much too much, although husband Cliff has been quite tolerant. So  in December, when we went to the Rembrandt in America exhibit at the … Continue reading

  

Menopausal Spinning

16Jan

  Spinning! There’s the good kind. The Tilt-a-whirl, if you’re a ride person like me. The salad spinner my daughter Kath swears by. The cycling class my daughter Laura loves. Then there’s the bad sort of spinning. The car that … Continue reading

  

Ditch the Old Model? A Question to Consider

9Jan

A few months ago, Cliff said, “I have something for you to consider.” That line always makes me nervous.  And although the question ended up being a generous one, it did reach deep into the OH NO WHAT SHOULD I … Continue reading

  

The NOT Silent Treatment

3Jan

Here’s a joke sent our way by a high school friend: A husband and a wife have just had a heated argument.  They are giving one another the silent treatment. The husband does not want to blow his cool and … Continue reading

  

Happy New Year! The Best Twenty Seconds

30Dec

My favorite twenty seconds of all. The ten seconds just before midnight on New Year’s Eve. And the ten seconds right after that big ball drops. This is not ordinary time. These are not ordinary seconds. I find the rolling … Continue reading

  

An On-line Chat with Mrs. Claus

21Dec

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I couldn’t believe my luck when I received word that Mrs. Claus was willing to do an on-line chat with me.  (I had emailed the North Pole and inquired.)  So here is my brief but insightful conversation with Santa’s wife: … Continue reading

  

The Magic, Guilt-free Holiday Wand

19Dec

Holiday advice articles and blogs beg us to say no, to take on less, and to use shortcuts at holiday time.  Why then, do you feel so guilty when you do? Maybe it’s because you don’t have your own Magic Guilt-free … Continue reading

  

Attack of the Venom Hormones

15Dec

I had a fab time taking photos at the North Carolina State Fair this year.   Every new sight was a blog post possibility! But it was husband Cliff who first spotted Spider Girl.  “Take her!  You’ve got to take … Continue reading

  

The Red Sea (Yes, That one)

7Dec

If you are squeamish or a man or so far beyond periods that you think they really are the dot at the end of a sentence, skip this post. But I wanted to say a word about the Red Sea … Continue reading

  

Would You? Questions for People and Bunnies

29Nov

  I’ve gotten myself in trouble by asking hypothetical questions.  I can’t help it.  I love them. Arguments, some silly, some serious (and some huge) have been sparked by my questions. Years ago, a friend even got so upset when visiting … Continue reading

  

Whirligig Menopause

22Nov

Mr.  Whirligig stands on my porch. You never know when the wind will set his arms spinning. And that’s how I’ve found it to be with menopause. You never know when a symptom (a new one or an old one) … Continue reading

  

Goodnight Menopause

14Nov

I love Margaret Wise Brown’s Goodnight Moon.  Truly I do. And I’ve never quite approved of writers who use the book’s easygoing rhythm and understated whimsy for playful parody. But the other day, the Menopause Devil came over me, and I … Continue reading

  

In the Middle of the (Sweaty) Night

7Nov

January: This dampness was weird.  From middle of the night nowhere. “I’m all sweaty,” I said to Cliff. (We have the rule that if the other person seems to be awake, it’s okay to talk, even if it’s two a.m.) … Continue reading

  

ACHOO!

2Nov

And just a few years ago, I heard a not-so-pretty revelation at a women only dinner party.  Six ladies all fessed up to the same problem:  When they sneezed, sometimes they leaked! So I fessed up too. The first time … Continue reading

  

Pumpkin Menopause!

29Oct

BOO! and BOO!  and BOO! You might think these pumpkins are men but they aren’t!  They are lady pumpkins who have pulled their hair back. And guess what?  Each one is in the middle of the Roller Coaster Ride!  You didn’t … Continue reading

  

Keep It Simple, and Put on a Happy Face!

24Oct

  Just a few simple lines and dots.  Yet they work.  The happy face smiles, and you smile back.  (If you’re not a fan of happy faces, I’d love to have you agree with me today for the sake of … Continue reading

  

It’s a Paper Doll’s Life

18Oct

The fashion life of a paper doll must be glorious.  She stands upright and proud in her underwear.  (That’s an accomplishment right there!)  Someone selects an outfit, slips it on, and suddenly, she’s beautifully dressed from head to toe. The … Continue reading

  

Ah Skin, Ah Youth

10Oct

There’s something sad about a mother who is jealous of her own children.  That’s not me.  If my children succeed where I have failed, I celebrate. The girls got better report cards than I did—Happy Mother Check Mark. The girls … Continue reading

  

It’s Ok, Ovaries

4Oct

I could feel an ovary trying to decide what to do.  One hour, I sensed the familiar and oh so annoying twinges that meant ovulation was on its way (followed by two weeks of PMS in her various forms). The … Continue reading