I want to last longer for my gf! Can anyone help me?
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I want to last longer for my gf! Can anyone help me?
This is my story...
During a long period of clinical depression my only stress release was masturbation and porn and I would rely on these tools frequently to help matters. I never had a girlfriend because of my state, so lasting long was never an issue. This obviously crippled me in the sense that I most certainly can PE (I can reach PONR in under a minute while masturbating). I can go longer if I start and stop, but I think that's really not the norm.
This is my problem...
I recently met a girl I really care about. We got to know each other and I realized after spending a lot of time with her I would pre-cum just talking with her for the simplest of topics (non-sex related mostly) At a point we shared a bed and I went down on her. When she tried to return the favor by giving me a handjob I almost instantly ejaculated after maybe half a minute. Another time she performed a blowjob and I cam after maybe 5 blows.
I've never had any prior experience with a woman and she obviously could tell that I was fast to ejaculate with her, however she was understanding and thought this will go away in time. She believes I just need to get use to these new sensations. I however am afraid this is not the case.
This is my goal...
We live at distance and I will be seeing her face to face in a few months time from now. I would like to correct this issue if possible because I really care about her and I don't want her to think I am being selfish. I would like to last longer in bed. My goal for now is 10 minutes. I was thinking of investing in a Fleshlight STU or something similar and do some practice with exercises but I don't know where to start and I would really appreciate any advise I can get from you guys. The only thing I'm afraid of is that my case is irreparable right now and I need some hope that it's not. What should I do?
Thanks in advance for all the help!
During a long period of clinical depression my only stress release was masturbation and porn and I would rely on these tools frequently to help matters. I never had a girlfriend because of my state, so lasting long was never an issue. This obviously crippled me in the sense that I most certainly can PE (I can reach PONR in under a minute while masturbating). I can go longer if I start and stop, but I think that's really not the norm.
This is my problem...
I recently met a girl I really care about. We got to know each other and I realized after spending a lot of time with her I would pre-cum just talking with her for the simplest of topics (non-sex related mostly) At a point we shared a bed and I went down on her. When she tried to return the favor by giving me a handjob I almost instantly ejaculated after maybe half a minute. Another time she performed a blowjob and I cam after maybe 5 blows.
I've never had any prior experience with a woman and she obviously could tell that I was fast to ejaculate with her, however she was understanding and thought this will go away in time. She believes I just need to get use to these new sensations. I however am afraid this is not the case.
This is my goal...
We live at distance and I will be seeing her face to face in a few months time from now. I would like to correct this issue if possible because I really care about her and I don't want her to think I am being selfish. I would like to last longer in bed. My goal for now is 10 minutes. I was thinking of investing in a Fleshlight STU or something similar and do some practice with exercises but I don't know where to start and I would really appreciate any advise I can get from you guys. The only thing I'm afraid of is that my case is irreparable right now and I need some hope that it's not. What should I do?
Thanks in advance for all the help!
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Re: I want to last longer for my gf! Can anyone help me?
Hi elmo3334,
Thank you for posting on the forum. Sorry to hear of your worry about ejaculating too quickly. If you believe that there is something more to it than just getting used to the new sensations, then we would urge you to visit your GP in the first instance. They will be able to help you understand what could be the cause or refer you onto another health professional such as a specialist if they feel there could be another underlying cause.
Please find a link here from the NHS who we are partnered with:
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/ejaculation-problems/
https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questi ... rapist-do/
Kind regards
talkhealth
Thank you for posting on the forum. Sorry to hear of your worry about ejaculating too quickly. If you believe that there is something more to it than just getting used to the new sensations, then we would urge you to visit your GP in the first instance. They will be able to help you understand what could be the cause or refer you onto another health professional such as a specialist if they feel there could be another underlying cause.
Please find a link here from the NHS who we are partnered with:
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/ejaculation-problems/
https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questi ... rapist-do/
Kind regards
talkhealth
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Re: I want to last longer for my gf! Can anyone help me?
Yes got the answer.
Try this product - Themra Epimedium Macun - Main ingredient is Horny goat weed along with other natural aphrodisiacs. Its inexpensive less than any chemical pills you can buy.
Very effective in premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction.
Try this product - Themra Epimedium Macun - Main ingredient is Horny goat weed along with other natural aphrodisiacs. Its inexpensive less than any chemical pills you can buy.
Very effective in premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction.
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Re: I want to last longer for my gf! Can anyone help me?
hey i had the same issue how old r y?
Re: I want to last longer for my gf! Can anyone help me?
Late 20s. Any ideas on how to overcome this issue?konstantinos wrote:hey i had the same issue how old r y?
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Re: I want to last longer for my gf! Can anyone help me?
Do you masturbate untill ejaculation before sex?
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Re: I want to last longer for my gf! Can anyone help me?
There are certain types of exercises you can do and also some therapies available to help you gain the control and to relax.
I wouldn’t to numbing creams or some random herbs online.
If you’re from North West then I could recommend a clinic where you can find help. Otherwise a visit to an NHS based sex clinic is reasonable step.
I wouldn’t to numbing creams or some random herbs online.
If you’re from North West then I could recommend a clinic where you can find help. Otherwise a visit to an NHS based sex clinic is reasonable step.