Suffering a lack of confidence
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midsguy13790
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Suffering a lack of confidence
Hi 34 year old male from the uk
Just after a bit of advice (probably from men but wont rule women out) and hopefully posted in the right section
For the last couple of months I have been stressed or worrying about my erections. Its hard to tell if its actual erection anxiety or an issue getting turned on. I will try and remember when I last had an erection and if I cant I panic try and force one, when I have one I stress if its actually hard enough or how long it is going to last. If I dont wake up hard I panic straight away although it usually pops up not long after. I know the worrying and stress isnt helping just cant seem to stop the cycle. This isnt the first time I have had these issues, over the years these thoughts/feelings have come and gone sporadically but this phase seems to be lasting longer.
I have spoke to my partner and she assures me everything is ok when we have sex feels as always does etc and in my mind I tell myself everything is ok yet I dont convince myself. We are still having sex or sexual contact on a regular basis. A couple of nights ago we were playing an adult boardgame and I was solid the whole time we were playing and enjoyed my victory which makes me think its a mental block over any physical/chemical issue.
About two years ago I went to see my GP about it and he prescribed viagra to see if it helped, I have never had to take one and never had any issues performing. I went back to see him just before the lockdown to discuss he again recommended trying viagra however I am reluctant as I dont want to begin relying on them and I know if I take one I will think I always need them. I asked him for a blood test, full blood count, thyroid check and testosterone levels all came back fine.
I had contacted someone about councelling for performance anxiety/general anxiety to help with a few issues in my life that possibly may be affecting me but obviously there is a wait for these services being made even longer by the pandemic.
Hopefully some of you may be able to offer similar experiences or advice all greatfully received and sorry for the long post
Just after a bit of advice (probably from men but wont rule women out) and hopefully posted in the right section
For the last couple of months I have been stressed or worrying about my erections. Its hard to tell if its actual erection anxiety or an issue getting turned on. I will try and remember when I last had an erection and if I cant I panic try and force one, when I have one I stress if its actually hard enough or how long it is going to last. If I dont wake up hard I panic straight away although it usually pops up not long after. I know the worrying and stress isnt helping just cant seem to stop the cycle. This isnt the first time I have had these issues, over the years these thoughts/feelings have come and gone sporadically but this phase seems to be lasting longer.
I have spoke to my partner and she assures me everything is ok when we have sex feels as always does etc and in my mind I tell myself everything is ok yet I dont convince myself. We are still having sex or sexual contact on a regular basis. A couple of nights ago we were playing an adult boardgame and I was solid the whole time we were playing and enjoyed my victory which makes me think its a mental block over any physical/chemical issue.
About two years ago I went to see my GP about it and he prescribed viagra to see if it helped, I have never had to take one and never had any issues performing. I went back to see him just before the lockdown to discuss he again recommended trying viagra however I am reluctant as I dont want to begin relying on them and I know if I take one I will think I always need them. I asked him for a blood test, full blood count, thyroid check and testosterone levels all came back fine.
I had contacted someone about councelling for performance anxiety/general anxiety to help with a few issues in my life that possibly may be affecting me but obviously there is a wait for these services being made even longer by the pandemic.
Hopefully some of you may be able to offer similar experiences or advice all greatfully received and sorry for the long post
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talkhealth
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Re: Suffering a lack of confidence
Hi midsguy13790,
Thank you for posting on the forum. We hope that you will receive some replies soon to your question from our other members who may have experienced something similar to you.
You may want to try calling up the National Sexual Health Helpline so that you can talk to someone who may have suggestions and advice for you. The helpline is free on 0300 123 7123. Your call will be treated with sensitivity and in strict confidence. The Sexual Health Helpline is open from 9am to 8pm, Monday to Friday.
You could also call your GP and see if they will refer you to a sex therapist who could perhaps help you via Skype/Zoom. There may be a wait as you say but there probably would be one anyway regardless of the pandemic.
https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questi ... rapist-do/
Kind regards
talkhealth
Thank you for posting on the forum. We hope that you will receive some replies soon to your question from our other members who may have experienced something similar to you.
You may want to try calling up the National Sexual Health Helpline so that you can talk to someone who may have suggestions and advice for you. The helpline is free on 0300 123 7123. Your call will be treated with sensitivity and in strict confidence. The Sexual Health Helpline is open from 9am to 8pm, Monday to Friday.
You could also call your GP and see if they will refer you to a sex therapist who could perhaps help you via Skype/Zoom. There may be a wait as you say but there probably would be one anyway regardless of the pandemic.
https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questi ... rapist-do/
Kind regards
talkhealth
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