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Hi guy,

I was just wondering if anybody had any advice on meeting new people/forming romantic relationships with those who have eczema?

I have close friends that know that I have eczema and they understand but it’s nothinh more than “stop scratching you’ll make it worse”, as if I don’t know already. I take medication to control my itching but I feel that because I’m not bleeding and scratching all over the place, people won’t take me seriously when I say it has a strong emotional affect on me.

I’ve been called everything under the sun, people think that we’re contagious or that’s I’m diseased or disgusting, and even though I am ok with showing my arms with eczema when it’s quite dormant, the eczema on my neck turns white and very dry, whereas I get psoriasis (i think) on the sides of my waist which are just dark black patches as big as my hand (I’m a black girl). As I’m going to uni and I understand the whole culture of dating and sleeping around I’m really scared to even talk a boy I find attractive and get intimate. I itch all the time, it’s spread to my face (around my lips and on my cheeks and my jawline), so it’s harder to hide and I just feel lost. I’d like to “let loose” and integrate but I have so much anxiety with people judging me, I’ve gone theough it at school and I cabt deal with going through it again

Any advice/tips? I’m 30 just to mention. Do you find guys are more judgemental when it comes to skin conditions or do they really not care?

Thank you

Hi JosephFrench,

Thank you for posting on the forum and sorry to hear about your eczema and how it is affecting you. Unfortunately we are unable to give out specific medical advice on individual conditions,but hopefully other members who are going through a similar experience may be able to give you some advice and tips.

We have a couple of free support programmes and a hub which may be able to help you with your eczema. Please find them here:

Support programmes:

https://www.talkhealthpartnership.com/support/eczema

https://www.talkhealthpartnership.com/support/mydryskin

Hub:

https://www.talkhealthpartnership.com/talkeczema

Kind regards
talkhealth

The best answer is it depends. It depends on the person, and it depends on how bad it is. I can accept that if its not too bad. Someone else will be more accepting than me, someone else will be less accepting. It really depends. If your partner really cares, he will help you address these issues. Relationships are beautiful things when done right and when there is true love. A lot of people have forgotten that sadly.