Am I gay?

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Natasha Anderson
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by Natasha Anderson on Tue Jun 18, 2013 8:06 pm

Re: Am I gay?

Many people find people of the same sex attractive, this alone is not an indication of being gay. Neither is having a couple of boyfriends and not experiencing great sex. A good understanding of your body, the arousal process, how and where you like to be touched would probably enhance your sexual experiences. It sounds as if you would like to try being with a woman for a sexual experience rather than a relationship, there is nothing wrong with this, but perhaps something to also think about. Here are a few questions you could try and answer:
Do you spend a lot of time thinking about or fantasying about being with other woman?
Do you or have you ever had a crush or been in love with a member of the same sex? If you have answered yes to these questions you could be gay or you could also be attracted to both sexes (Bi), or you could be straight. Not experiencing pleasurable sex with a member of the opposite sex does not make you gay. Remember you have had boyfriends in the past, who I imagine you may have been attracted to.
Not having someone to talk to about these issues can make you feel lonely and isolated, especially if you believe you will be rejected from your social networks. Visit or call your local http://www.brook.org.uk/ for further advice and information.
Natasha Anderson
Sexual Health Adviser and Psychosexual Therapist

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