Drink Problem?

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by fizzynoodlepot on Mon Dec 08, 2014 2:25 pm

Drink Problem?


I am worried that my husband has a drink problem. He does not share my concern.
Over the last 12 months or so I have noticed that my husband has been drinking more than usual.
He often drinks a bottle of spirits in a couple of days plus 2-3 bottles of wine per week, alone.
He says he has counted his units and he is within the recommended guidelines, but what he is not monitoring are

the days when he has drunk a bottle of wine within an hour himself
the number of times he has gone to the shop purely to buy alcohol
the numerous occasions when he suggests calling into the local pub for a drink; when out for a walk or coming home from the supermarket
the times when he has to open a bottle of wine to make a phone call or prepare food

It is now causing tension in the house as I try to budget for the Christmas food shopping and he keeps drinking what I have brought in advance.
Am I being unreasonable?

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by saraht on Mon Dec 08, 2014 7:32 pm

Re: Drink Problem?

You are not being unreasonable at all, but unless your husband believes he has a problem that now is perhaps effecting his health and your relationship, and it puts you in a very difficult position. Unfortunately when people are put under scrutiny with their heavy or harmful drinking habits, they can get defensive and often drink more. Honesty is the best policy, and if you could perhaps sit down with him when he isn't or hasn't been drinking, and just voice your concerns, which are valid, that could be a way forward, making it clear that you are only thinking of his health and both of you being able to enjoy a Happy Christmas.
Sarah Turner
Cognitive Behavioural Therapist Specialising in Alcohol Dependence
http://www.talkhealthpartnership.com/on ... turner.php

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