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[Sterling94]

Hi there

I have suffered from eczema all of my life and have convinced myself that it's a disease that makes you ugly and not attractive to the opposite sex. I wondered if anyone out there feels the same

Does having this skin disease make it ten times harder to meet a partner in life? or is it all in the mind?

I'm hoping that some of you lovely people out there would be willing to help me out

Many thanks for reading!

[talkhealth]

hi Sterling94

So sad to hear that you feel eczema makes you unattractive, remember people see beyond eczema to the real you which shines through. Please read through our eczema pages and try our online clinic to see if anything there lifts you up. I'm sure some of our other members will have happy endings to tell you.

best wishes
talkhealth

[Di Graham]

Yes, there have been instances throughout my life when I've felt very unattractive because of my eczema.
As a child I had other children refuse to hold hands with me as theri mothers said I might have soemthing they could 'catch' !
As an adult people tend to either avoid looking at you directly (this when facial eczema flares up) or be over solicitous with suggestions you don't need----which, although well meant, is really annoying.
Luckily I met, and later married, an amazing man (sadly now passed away) who was only too glad to help with caring for my skin (very difficult to see what's happening on your back etc).
So, no, it's not all in your mind. There are people who see beyond the scabby skin and equally there are plenty more who don't.
Sadly, because of the society we live in where youth and blemish free skin is celebrated, many judge others by the way they look, so it might be more difficult to find a partner.
I suggest you concentrate on doing things that make you happy and increase your confidence--that's if you're not doing that already. Don't rely too much on your GP helping you out. If you can find a dermatological consultant who suffers from eczema then you have a much better chance of getting the help you'd like, to look as good as possible. They are, from my experience, in short supply.
Best of luck and don't let others put you down.

[talkhealth]

Hi Sterling94

I hope Di Graham's post gave you some positive vibes.

Kind regards
talkhealth

[Momaaaa123]

No, you are BEAUTIFUL. I also have eczema and recently opened up a page to discuss skincare and how to decrease the likelihood of eczema flareups. My instagram is miaskincaree

[Skincure]

My daughter has very bad eczema from the time she was born. I would get worried as a mom seeing kids staring at her skin sometimes. But I have realized how strong and beautiful of a person her skin condition has made her. She said to me "MAMA SHOULDN'T WE LOOK AT THE INNER BEAUTY OF A PERSON." Recently we used Mitlow Herbal Salve and it has completely cleared her eczema in just few days. But over all her skin conditions have made her very kind and polite to other people.

[Marcie Mom]

Agree Am also glad that my daughter has maintained a cheerful disposition despite the itch and the marks on my hands/legs. Best to 2019!

[eczemaliving]

Hi Sterling,

Hope your doing well!

Our Skin is a reflection of how we feel about ourselves. Your condition revealed to you that the hatred and resentment you felt towards your skin was actually how you deep down felt about yourself. Once you stopped being so darn angry with yourself your skin started to heal.