I'm 34, my ED problem

[Lew Ashby]

I turned 34 not too many months back, I have never been clinically diagnosed with ED but I have ED without a doubt. I don't know how long I've had it only that I found out somewhere around age 30-32. I had been divorced for many years, probably about 10 years at the time and I hadn't had sex with anyone since my x-wife was my wife. During that time there were long spouts of using porn and masturbation so I don't know what if any psychological and or physiological detrimental affects that could have had on me. A few years ago when I started getting reconnected with an old friend she an I started having sex. Before sex there was of course a lot of kissing and making out which is were I noticed the first red flag(s). To my alarm while making out I noticed that my erections were very weak, blood would go to my penis but I doubt you could really even call it an erection. After we started having sex I was often times able to get an erection but I wasn't usually able to maintain it. I was able to maintain it most of the time as long as I remained in her pussy, but if I came out for any reason, even just to change positions I would likely loose it, at which point she would stimulate me orally which would USUALLY do the trick. I love having my dick sucked as much as the next guy but I shouldn't have to do that every time we just want to change positions. There were still occasions where I would go soft while inside of her, and if I had already cam once that night my ED problem were all the worse. We eventually quit talking for a few years and reconnected yet again a little over a year ago. During that time I've changed a lot of my habits and the way I live. I lost 40-50 LBS on keto, nearly cut out porn and greatly reduced my masturbation habits, started trying to run on the treadmill (this one's a bit spotty, some weeks are good some weeks less so with work and everything), and I've changed to a nearly 90% plant based diet. I did notice some improvement between now and a few years ago but the improvement is still less than desirable. I still go soft pretty quick but maybe it will last just a little longer. I still have a difficulty getting an erection after I've already cam but it's been more successful than it was a few years ago. Back in November I got the P-shot, it costs me $1,500 and everything I read about it online made it sound very promising. Other than a quick BJ we haven't got to hook up since then so I haven't got to really test out the results of the procedure. But with just me and my penis and my hands talking, I don't think the P-shot did very much. With just me here by myself I don't see much of a difference. Rewind back to my early 20's and when I was married I didn't have any problem getting or staying hard, my only problem seemed to be that it would take me longer and longer to cum the more times I cam in a given night/or day. But I remember always being able to get and stay hard, and if my wife even mentioned a BJ blood would fill my penis and I could think of nothing else. I don't know if this will help or not but now when I want to maintain a good stiff full erection for as long as possible, I have to keep giving my penis a little attention and I also have to tense up my legs, and maybe my butt to a degree to. I hope something I've said helps you to help me. Is there a test or procedure that I should look into? Thanks, I really appreciate any and all helpful responses.

[talkhealth]

Hi Lew Ashby,

Thank you for posting to the forum. Sorry to hear about your diagnosis of ED and to see that you have not had any responses yet.

Unfortunately you have just missed our 'Ask the expert' Urology Foundation - men's sexual health clinic last week, but please find below a link to a past blog by the Urology Foundation on ED.

http://www.talkhealthpartnership.com/bl ... sfunction/

Hope this helps.

Regards
talkhealth

[JeffKells]

How goes my friend,

If you haven't done anything to keep your erection in shape, then it's understandable that after so long, the erections are not in it's best form. Especially with what occurs naturally with aging.

Few things that can bring you some immediate benefit.

Up your Vitamin D... increasing Vitamin D intake can help improve testosterone and erectile function. And a lot of us have a deficiency without even knowing:

Kegels... the miracle exercises to improve sexual performance... doing them on their own will help things.

Do some cardio... get that blood flowing again.

And not sure if you've heard of jelqing... it's supposed to be a "enlargement" exercise, but it actually improves bloodflow throughout the penis as well.

[xiphos84]

Well it could be worse. You could be me and never really had sex because of that. Tried with lots of women but after a while I just gave up. I've been with my wife for 5 years and we probably only had sex like twice and that was with pills. But most of the time pills didn't work. Tried many times but it's almost exactly what you described. Stays hard for a little bit and then nothing.

No problems jacking off though which makes me think its a mental issue and I need to see a sex therapist. But I stopped jacking off for a month and even that didn't work so I don't know.

I've tried Numale, Cialis, Viagra, and stopping smoking. Went to a urologist and he said it could be a "Venis Leak." A vein in the penis that leaks. But the only way to know for sure is paying him $10,000 to cut open my dick and look inside... So yeah i'm not doing that.

So before I spent all my money on a sex therapist I'm hitting the forums. Can u please let me know if you hear something useful and I will do the same. Hang in there bud.

[dustydeats]

I had this problem and fixed it. I am going on forums to share what fixed it for me, as the internet saved my life.

1.) Stop watching porn and mastrubating. Search NO FAP on reddit. Porn is PHYSICALLY messing with your brain, and killing your erections. Abstaining will bring them back. Read up.
2.) Kegals. Do kegals everyday. This alone will get you back to 85% hard.
3.) See a sex therapist. ED is often a side effect of other problems. Fix those problems, and you will fix your dick.
4.) Meditate. Use headspace to get mentally healthy. You can get hard if you are stressed, or have been that day.
5.) Excersice your lower body. Run so you engage your groin.
6.) FInd a nice stress free partner.

This saved my life. Good luck!