codiene addiction caused ED

[mitch1985]

hello.

to try to keep it as short as possible ive been suffering badly with mental health problems for a few years. i had to bury my baby son and among with all the other everyday pressures of life i ended up going down hill and ended up addicted to prescription painkillers. mainly opiods but i would take anything i could get my hands on really. this helped mask the problems for a while but the last few months i have been starting to suffer sexually with ED and just overall performace in the bedroom with my wife and she began to notice. she began to think i was no longer attracred to her which is just insane as she in incredibly beautiful and very sexy. i was too embarrsed to come clean about the drug taking as she is very anti drugs and as always tried to deal with this myself like an idiot instead of just talking and coming clean. i tried my best to reduce the pill intake as i love her very much i even tried to view some porn a couple of times to see if i could keep an erection but it didnt work at all. eventually it all came out i came clean about all the opiods ive been taking she even knows about the porn but now she feels like ive betrayed her and feels like ive cheated on her. ive always been quite insecure about my wife as i had been cheated on badly before by previous partners and had trust issues and as i said before she is insanely beautiful. now after all this has come out i find myself in an even deeper hole as now i feel like she is going to want to get back at me when all along i should have just spoke to her about the problems. our relationship is generally perfect and everyone comments on how we were made for each other we have both been completey faitfhful to each other for the 12 years we have been together, we even have 4 beautiful kids together. i feel like ive made a complete mess of everything. will my ED get better as i come off the drugs. im very insecure about this as what beautiful woman would want to be with a man who cannot even get it up. and she also feels like i cheated on her because i viewed porn but i only did this to see if i could get it working and i was very embarressed about my problems and tbh it didnt work anyway. porn is not my thing i only really get going for the real thing.

we usually have a great sex life.. will my libido and sexual function return if i clean my act up?
and how do i convince my wife that i am still faithful i understand that she feels betrayed but i was just too embarressed and too insecure to talk to her about it as i already feel fucking like im not good enough for her. she is my whole life without her i am nothing. i have began to speak to mental health proffesionals but im absolutely petrified and embarresed to talk to someone face to face about the other stuff but i know it needs addresssing

thank you sorry for the rant im just looking for some light at the end of this very dark tunnel

[MissCandyGirl]

Your wife deserves to read the post you've written on this website: that will open her eyes. Honesty is your only choice in this situation. Get her to read your Internet post. I know it's humiliating, but you've got to. You are not a failure for not "getting it up" as the saying goes. It is upsetting and hurtful for you both, so - again - honesty is your best choice in this situation.

Your wife needs to understand that you are not attracted to anyone else and are not cheating on her. The drugs you've taken in the past could well have caused this problem and she needs to know this.

Please show her your post: that will strengthen the bond between you both. Women like it when a man says what a problem is about and explains where his issues are. Because if you leave her in the dark she will only become more paranoid.

Good luck and do speak to your doctor too about your erectile dysfunction.